Have there been multiple times when you (a male) are able to sustain sexual encounters, specifically vaginal penetration for a longer period than usual? To the extent that your partner began to complain about feeling pain? To the extent that you yourself began to feel uncomfortable and anxious about the occurrence? Then this discussion post may be of interest to you. Our topic for discussion today is delayed ejaculation, a male specific condition.
Delayed Ejaculation can be defined as a frequent difficulty or failure to ejaculate within the vagina despite adequate excitement and stimulation and the ability to achieve and maintain an erection. Models that explain this condition are psychosocial in nature and they include fear and performance anxiety which leads to “spectatoring”, that is, focusing on one’s performance rather than enjoying the sexual encounter. Other factors include strict religious prohibitions which leads to feelings of extreme guilt about sexual encounters or avoidance of sexual encounters. In addition, previous sexual abuses and traumas, and hostility, either towards one’s partner or oneself, have been identified by researchers as chiefly causing this condition. However, in some cases, improper ambience for sexual activities, inadequate sexual stimulation, the use of sexual techniques or behavior that has lost its sensual impact and also engaging in idiosyncratic masturbation which cannot be easily replicated by one’s sexual partner have been found to contribute immensely to the origination and sustenance of delayed ejaculation.
This dysfunction affects a much fewer number of men as compared to the other sexual dysfunctions. This, in my view, could be as a result of the fact the extra prolonged duration in penile-vaginal sex is welcomed and applauded as a sign of stamina in men.
If you have concerns, or are concerned about your partner, kindly reach out for professional assistance from the Dialogue Genitalia Team. I would like to reiterate that in order to be diagnosed with a sexual dysfunction, the DSM-5 requires that you should have experienced the symptoms associated with a particular dysfunction for at least 6 months and also be significantly distressed about the situation. As such, if you or your partner has these symptoms and you are not anxious or concerned about the situation, you would not be diagnosed with a sexual dysfunction. Also, if you do not engage in sexual activities, you would not be diagnosed with this dysfunction. Once again, do not hesitate to reach out for professional help. See you in our next blog post as we continue our discussion with a look at Premature Ejaculation and please remember to share this post and leave your questions and comments.
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